Everybody loves a good story.
Some of my favorite stories are the true ones about mishaps, hijinks, and shenanigans.
I love to hear my husband talk about his past adventures as a bachelor. Like the time when he was traveling over a mountain pass with a van full of people and needed to put snow chains on the tires. To their surprise, the chains didn’t fit! So the group all took their shoelaces off and tied them to the chains to make them fit!
Or the time when it snowed so much that his roommate’s bulldog ran off the back deck only to sink straight down into the snow and run circles around the backyard plowing the snow as he went.
Good stories are fun to hear and can make us laugh.
But what about the stories that are exaggerated to get a reaction? You know, the stories that are about another person that paints them in a negative light.
It seems that wherever there is a group of people who spend a lot of time together then it becomes a breeding ground for gossip, over embellished stories, and backbiting. All of these lend to drama.
The workplace or schoolhouse can be a place of drama. This is where we spend most of our time.
It can become easy to get caught up in the “she said” or “did you hear” conversations. Even overhearing gossip can cause us to look at people or situations differently.
What I have learned and have tried to practice is that if it did not directly involve me then it is none of my business to actively listen to or repeat.
I am reminded of Ephesians 4:29 which says:
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
If I choose to not gossip, give big reactions, or participate in negativity, then I am not participating in drama.
When we choose to not make a big deal out of things or not get involved in other people’s business then we will find contentment in who we are as individuals.
What if I truly decided to practice Ephesians 4:29 and only build other people up with my speech? What if I was so in tune to their needs that the words that I spoke brought them life?
Well, I think that people that like to gossip and speak negatively would not find an audience in me.
So friend, let us decide today to say “no” to drama. Let’s not lend an ear to gossip, participate in backbiting, or speak poorly of others.
Let’s not overreact, make mountains out of someone else’s molehills, or stick our heads where they don’t belong.
Today I choose to speak life, only life. Who’s with me?
I would like to hear from you. What are your thoughts on how to strategically say “no” to drama?
Please share your thoughts in the comments below.