As a child of the 80’s it seemed as though divorce had become the new trend.
I remember standing at the bus stop and listening to a kid say how his parents were getting divorced.
Another kid piped up and said his parents had divorced the previous year. Still, another classmate shared that her parents divorced when she was a baby.
I decided that when I got home that day I would ask my parents when they were planning on divorcing.
It was at that moment that my mother explained to me that not every couple divorces and that I didn’t have anything to worry about. She assured me that she and my dad loved each other very much.
Spring forward 15 years. As a youth pastor I heard from several teens that they had decided to never get married because they didn’t want to divorce.
There is deception in our culture about marriage. The lie believed says that divorce is always an option.
However, when you marry the person God has intended for you and you and your spouse place Christ at the center of your marriage, then divorce is not an option.
I am reminded of the words of Jesus when speaking about marriage in Mark 10:9 - 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
When Brian and I decided to get married we decided from the beginning that the word “divorce” was not to be spoken in our marriage. It was not an option.
Marriage is not always easy; it takes a lot of work. In the early years of marriage, walking away would have been easier than working through the issues.
By making the “D” word off limits, it forced us to seek the Lord for his guidance.
I have discovered that when I make Jesus the focal point of my marriage, then I become less selfish and more selfless.
We both become more interested in our marriage partnership rather than focusing on living separate lives.
Being intentional about what is being said and not said is an important part of marriage. Putting relationship ahead of emotion has helped us to solve conflict and move forward.
So, I would like to ask you this: “Do you have a word or phrase in your marriage that is off limits? If so, would you take a moment to share about it in the comments below?”