Flowers, restaurants, movie theaters, candy, long walks. All of these mark the time when boyfriends and girlfriends get together and date. Dating even continues once the couple says “I do”. However, once the business of life takes over, often times dating becomes a thing of the past. Dating is important to every marriage. It is simply spending quality time with your spouse alone. It is important that I emphasize alone.
Sure, going out with another couple or a group can be fun once in a while but those times do not create an environment of communication. If you have hectic lives, then it is imperative to get away together and enjoy one another’s company. This is especially important when there are little children in the house. It is also the most difficult time to get away.
Dating doesn’t have to be expensive. If the budget is tight, then go for walks, have a picnic in the park or even put the kids to bed and sneak outside and set up camp in the backyard! There are times in my marriage when my husband and I had a dedicated date night when we would hire a babysitter and go out to the mall or to a restaurant. In the leaner times, we would put the kids to bed and go to the front room to play a game together.
As our children have become older, there is more flexibility in our dating as far as how long we can be away. The important thing is that couples continue to date. Through every phase of your marriage adjust how you date. When you have little children at home, make dating simple.
As work schedules change, adjust appropriately. The more hectic your life becomes, the more need there is for quality time between you and your spouse. Make dating a priority. Make dating fun. Do something adventurous, spontaneous, and try something new.
God is the creator of marriage. He is the creator of love. He is the creator of fun. So enjoy yourselves, have fun, and make time to date your spouse! What are some creatives ways you have found to make time to date your spouse? Please leave your comments below.