Everyone enjoys a kind word. We like to know that we are appreciated. We like to know that when we have accomplished something that others take notice.
This isn’t necessarily a sign of pride but instead it’s affirmation that you are doing good.
In the book of Proverbs it says, “Let someone else praise you, and not your own mouth; an outsider, and not your own lips.”
When we sing the praise of others then they are lifted up. This is true in any relationship. I have seen this especially in my relationship with my children but also as a wife.
In the early days of marriage, it is easy to get caught up in how your spouse is different than you. They may roll the end of the toothpaste when you push from the middle. They may insist on hanging up their jeans in the closet when you are perfectly content in keeping them in a dresser.
You are two different people coming together. It takes time to adjust to one another.
I have learned that instead of focusing on the differences between us, our relationship is healthier when we focus on the things that we do well.
When my husband repairs something, cleans something, or accomplishes a task, I try to do my best to first acknowledge his hard work then second, compliment him.
I then take it to the next level and compliment him in front of others. When you sing the praises of your spouse to others it not only encourages them but it shows them honor.
This reminds me of Romans 13:7 which says
7 Give to everyone what you owe them: If you owe taxes, pay taxes; if revenue, then revenue; if respect, then respect; if honor, then honor.
By praising my husband in front of others I am showing him honor. I am showing him that I respect him and his role in my life.
Marriage is a partnership. When appreciate our spouse then our partnership with strengthen.
When I find that what I do goes noticed, I am more apt to continue doing it. The same holds true for others.
I try to be mindful of what my husband is doing around me and for me and my household. It is important to take notice and speak up.
Complimenting your spouse will empower them to be better and continuing doing things that benefit your marriage.
Mark Twain is quoted as saying “I can live for 2 months on a good compliment.”
So I would like to ask you this, “Have you had someone compliment you that encouraged you keep going?”